Navigating Pet Loss During the Holidays
The holidays. Usually a time of celebration and cheer, but when grieving the loss of a beloved pet, they can feel especially heavy. Traditions that once brought joy might now serve as painful reminders of their absence. It’s easy to feel out of sync with the world around us, as everyone else seems focused on joy and togetherness while we navigate sadness and longing. The most important thing to remember is that you’re not alone in these feelings. Struggling with grief during the holidays is normal, and it’s okay to feel this way.
For me, decorating for the holidays has always been my favorite tradition. Right after Thanksgiving, I’d usually dive into a month of Christmas cheer— lights, ornaments, the whole works. But this year, my first without Jasper, I haven’t managed to put up a single decoration, and it’s already December 18th. Maybe I’ll get around to it; maybe I won’t. What I am doing, though, is taking time to reflect, heal, and honor Jasper in ways that feel meaningful.
Rituals and Memorials
Memorializing a pet can be an important part of the healing process. It allows us to honor their memory and continue their legacy in meaningful ways. Whether through creative expressions, physical memorials, or acts of service in their name, these rituals help channel our grief into something tangible.
Creating a Holiday Tradition
Although I haven’t decorated this year, I’ve decided to start a new holiday tradition: each year, I’ll collect or make an ornament in Jasper’s honor. This year, I chose a cardinal ornament, as cardinals are often seen as a symbol of loved ones who’ve passed. You might consider lighting a candle in memory of your pet, dedicating a small corner of your home to a holiday-themed memorial, or even putting up a mini tree in their honor.
Acts of Kindness
Another way to honor your pet is through acts of kindness in their name. This could mean donating to a local animal shelter or volunteering at an animal-focused organization. Recently, I volunteered at ARF, participating in their shy dog socialization program and spending time with dogs awaiting adoption. It felt good to give back in a way that reflected my love for Jasper.
Hosting a Memorial Ceremony
A small ceremony can also be a meaningful way to honor your pet. During a holiday gathering, you might take a moment to reflect, share stories, or acknowledge their place in your life. This can be especially comforting when done with friends or family who also have fond memories of your pet.
Journaling for Reflection and Healing
Journaling can be a powerful way to process grief. It offers a safe space to explore emotions, gain clarity, and connect with your pet’s legacy. If you’re not sure where to start, here are a couple of prompts:
If you could write a letter to your pet this holiday season, what would you say?
How are you feeling about the holidays without your pet? What would bring you comfort?
We’ve created a full list of holiday-specific journal prompts to help you find healing and growth during this time, which you can explore in the community here.
Carrying their Spirit Forward
The holidays can be a challenging time, so give yourself permission to feel your emotions without judgement. Grief is non-linear, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. Set boundaries with social obligations if they feel overwhelming, and lean on your support network — whether that’s family, friends, or the Jasper community. Prioritize self-care, like getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that lift your mood.
It’s okay to find moments of joy and create new traditions while holding space for your grief. Ther’s no “right” way to honor your pet; it’s a deeply personal journey.
The love you shared with your pet doesn’t end— it lives on in the ways you carry their memory forward. Be kind to yourself, and remember: you are not alone. There’s a supportive community here for you, filled with people who truly understand what you’re going through.